Once you turn a certain age, the rules of relationships go out the window. This is especially true for those in their golden years. While some rules may have guided your interactions in the past, turning 60 offers a liberating chance to reconsider things. Here are seven relationship rules you can comfortably leave behind.
Always put family first
Throughout your years, you may have seen friends and family as a priority, however, as you get older and hit your 60s, this notion doesn’t necessarily stay true. You are allowed to prioritize yourself from now on. Go out and explore the things that make you happy.
Your partner should be your everything
Another rule you don’t need to follow is that your partner should continue to be your everything. The unrealistic expectations you once had of your partner being the be-all and end-all, doesn’t need to hold as much importance. It’s healthy to have interests and friendships outside of this partnership. Having diverse hobbies and social circles can augment your relationships and life.
Stay together for the kids
Once you’re in your 60s, if your children are grown-up and independent, staying in an unhappy relationship “for the kids” loses its importance. It’s more about your well-being and happiness at this stage.
Don’t talk about past relationships
By the time you’re 60, you’ve accrued treasured life experiences. Sharing stories about past relationships can offer insights and deepen connections, as long as it’s done with respect and without dwelling on the past.
Keep your struggles to yourself
One thing that can strengthen bonds in relationships, friendships, and family is opening up about the personal struggles you have been going through. Always remember that you are not a burden on anyone, and sharing your situation can help people offer you well-needed support and show them that you too, are vulnerable.
Compromise is always key
While compromising is an important trait to have in a relationship and certain situations, what’s also important is to have your preferences and personal identity. Things that are predominantly important to you, such as certain issues, especially if they contribute to your happiness and well-being should be considered.
Never go to bed angry
Another rule you don’t need to follow is ‘never go to bed angry’. Sometimes it’s best to get a good night’s sleep to help provide the clarity needed to resolve any conflicts effectively. Taking a break from a heated discussion and revisiting it after both parties are calmer and more rested is often a better approach.